Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Breakups. Not So Simple

Breakups...  No one likes the sound of it. No one likes the meaning of it.  It simply.. sucks.  You could have gone through a bad breakup, or ended on good terms, but either way... getting over it is a challenge.  You may often ask yourself questions such as :  Why is it so hard to get over someone, even if they've been treating you poorly? or Why can't I move on? 

I don't have all the answers in the world, I just have honest answers from personal experience.  If you are or have been going through a tough breakup because of anger, or something that you may claim as "your fault," it may seem easy at 1st.  The reasoning for that is because you're in your anger phase.  But the next couple of  days seem to get more difficult and you realize you miss the other person.  For one, you were in the habit of being with someone, you were in your comfort zone.

Honestly, the only way to get through it is with time. I know that's not an answer people want to hear, because as humans we are all { impatient }. We want things done now.  ..Now whether the breakup was your fault or not, it happened.  It sucks. You can't take it back, and need to move on with your life and move forward. 

Some ways of getting your mind off it: pick up extra hours at your job (if he doesn't work with you) , keep yourself busy.  Listen to music, workout, spend more time with family.  Plan events.. go on a mini vacation.  Try painting or drawing.  Whatever you do, Do not sleep with anyone.  You are already in a rough patch and you don't need to be taken advantage of.  Don't complicate things more than they already are.. especially now. You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself, and stop blaming yourself.  

Do your nails, get your hair done, buy a new outfit. Make yourself feel confident again.  You want to look your best, don't let yourself go because of someone else.. You want to better yourself. Take the breakup as a positive thing, as a new and better chapter in your life.  You don't need them. The world is big enough to move on to bigger and better things.  Put a huge smile on your face when you go out, don't let others have to suffer because of your unhappiness.  Even if you have to fake it, do it. Afterall, a happy you is a better you.  It will make you glow and nothing negative can occur when you are happy and positive.   & it will make them wonder why you are so happy and they are so miserable. Trust me on this one..   They WILL miss you, whether they want to admit it or not.. They will hide the fact that they miss you, but they will.  Now. This does not mean they want you back.  You may never get them back. But that is a Good Thing. You are already on your way to a new chapter in your life.  A better beginning.  Don't think of it as an end, although it feels like the world is ending.  

Take your mind off it by trying new things.  If you do the same things you always do , you already feel comfortable doing them so it won't completely get your mind off it.  Try NEW things. Such as Painting, Drawing, Bowling, go for a walk, be daring try skydiving, go ice skating or roller blading, learn photoshop,  try dancing(ie: ballroom, salsa, zumba, line-dancing).  Look up at your local community center for lessons.  Try crafting. Scrapbooking, or card-making.  You can find a new love of crafting you didn't even know you were into.  Try cooking, or baking something new.

No one said a breakup is going to be easy, and I am not saying it is.  But I have been through it, and most people I know have been through tough situations.  and you know what?  We have all been able to get through it , and it does get better.  It may not feel as if it's getting better now, or that it will. But trust me, it does.  As long as you want it to get better, and get that negative energy out of your body.  

And most importantly, you need to learn to love and trust yourself before you love and trust others. <3


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-all the information on this post is based on personal opinion. Here is an additional site I found to be helpful to cope with a breakup or divorce.
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