Friday, November 23, 2012

What makes a healthy relationship {love} ?

Hope you all had a great Thanksgiving. Now lets get back to business.
What makes a healthy love relationship
Here are 4 important steps to a healthy relationship
  • Staying involved with one another. Some relationships get stuck in peaceful coexistence { you tend to get comfortable with one another, but don't know how to keep things current },  While it may seem stable on the surface, lack of involvement and communication increases distance between each other. When you need to talk about something important, the connection and understanding may no longer be there, and may lead to future arguments and distance.

  • Getting through conflict. Some couples talk things out quietly, while others may raise their voices and passionately disagree. The key in a strong relationship, though, is not to be fearful of conflict. You need to be safe to express things that bother you without fear of retaliation, and be able to resolve conflict without humiliation, degradation or insisting on being right. Try to calm your nerves before discussing things that are bothering you, and try not to raise your voice { although this may be difficult } .  Relationships aren't something that just comes to you, you need to try and you need to work on your problems and work through them. 

  • Keeping outside relationships and interests alive. No one person can meet all of our needs, and expecting too much from someone can put a lot of unhealthy pressure on a relationship. Having friends and outside interests not only strengthens your social network, but brings new insights and stimulation to the relationship, too. { So go out together, meet new people, find people with similar interests as you both as a couple,  hang out with your current friends, plan vacations, small getaways.. anything that will make you stronger together and with others }

  • Communicating. Honest, direct communication is a key part of any relationship. When both people feel comfortable expressing their needs, fears and desires, trust and bonds are strengthened. Critical to communication are nonverbal cues—body language such as eye contact, leaning forward or away, or touching someone’s arm, and not crossing your own arms.

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